It may be a given that serving someone will enhance your feelings of love toward each other.
But consider what are some NEW ways you could serve them? And what are the BEST ways?
Don’t think in terms of YOUR “love language”, think in terms of THEIRS. Think, what would mean the most to them?
Do they most appreciate written words, or verbal words of affirmation? Affection? Gifts? Time together? Help accomplishing a task? Or something else?
For example, I know a mother, who when doing this challenge with her teenage daughter, went to the grocery store and bought a TON of her daughter’s favorite foods for lunches and snacks. At the end of the week, her daughter said, “Mom, you killed it this week with food!” The mom was thrilled! That was the daughter’s way of saying “thank you” and “I noticed that you served me” and “I love what you did for me.” Through doing this, and the other parts of this challenge, their relationship was greatly improved that week.
After making a mental list of some new, best ways to serve your secret someone, make a plan of when and how you’ll execute them.
Remember, this doesn’t have to be anything big. It’s usually the small things that mean the most. And although it’s good to make a plan, keep looking for other spontaneous opportunities to serve them too.
Also, keep building on the previous challenges:
-pray for more love for them
-keep a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions
I hope you are noticing an increase in love and a transformation in your relationship! If you’re working on a particularly tough one, and progress is slow, that’s okay. Just keep going. It will make a difference eventually.
*And if you’re new to this page, and just learning about this challenge, it’s not too late to jump in! Just start doing all 3, as much as you can. Be sure to read my explanations for the previous days, so you can get the most out of it.
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